Is your family…
- Looking for a bar or bat mitzvah for a child with no Hebrew skills?
- Not interested in synagogue services and membership?
- Too busy to drive a child to Hebrew tutoring?
- Looking for a rabbi who will relate to your child and help them feel motivated?
As the only all-distance-learning based option in Richmond, Kehillah’s approach helps families and kids of all kinds to have the ceremony that is meaningful to them. Our program is less about telling you what to do, and more about us listening to your needs.
What We Offer
Families can choose from three ceremony options:
SHABBAT EVENING (FRIDAY)
- Lots of Kabbalat Shabbat songs and prayers
- Short speech about the Torah portion and what it means to the child
- Kiddush and hamotzie/Shabbat dinner blessings
SHABBAT MORNING/AFTERNOON (SATURDAY)
- Much more abbreviated prayer and singing of Shabbat songs
- Short reading from a sefer torah
- Speech about the Torah portion
- Kiddush and hamotzie before lunch/dinner
HAVDALAH (SATURDAY NIGHT AT SUNSET)
- A few songs/prayers from the Maariv (evening) service
- Speech about the Torah portion or any Jewish topic of meaning to the child
- Lead the Debbie Friedman havdalah song/ritual
Your ceremony can take place anywhere at any time.
How Our Program Works
Study anywhere, anytime, at your convenience! We provide an online portal where students access videos, podcasts, handouts and even Jewish video games! This serves as the basis for our learning.
Additionally, our rabbi meets with your child on Facetime or Skype, so there is no need to take your child to any kind of appointments.
Every bar/bat mitzvah family receives the following:
- Access to the B’nai Mitzvah Learning Portal
- Mentoring/tutoring sessions with Rabbi Patrick Beaulier (as seen in the Richmond Times-Dispatch, Richmond Magazine and Chesterfield Observer)
- Customized ceremony with our rabbi including use of a Torah scroll
- Professionally designed and customized ceremony siddur (prayer book) in printable format
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How Long Does the Program Take?
Our program is designed to take ten months, and can take a child from no Jewish knowledge or language skills to fully prepared for b’nai mitzvah. For children who want (or need) to take longer, our program can be extended. For motivated families, our program can be accomplished faster.
How Much Does the Program Cost?
Our program has three easy payments:
- Deposit. $300.00 non-refundable deposit to begin learning. This provides you unlimited access to our online materials for life and your free, first tutoring session with Rabbi Patrick
- Choose-Your-Own-Monthly-Payment. Families choose how many tutoring sessions they would like per month. Each session is $65.00 and includes customized tutoring and follow up by the rabbi. To keep your child engaged, we recommend no more than three sessions per month.
- Ceremony. $1,200.00 for the ceremony including design of your family’s siddur, use of our Torah and rabbi’s officiation of the service. You can pay in advance or the day of the ceremony
Payment is handled online with a no hassle, monthly debit. Free payment plans are available.Families who participate in our Sunday family program receive substantial discounts on our program.
Frequently Asked Questions
Does my child have to attend Hebrew school? Do we have to attend Shabbat services or holidays? What other commitments do we have to make?
None! You only have to participate in as much of Kehillah’s programming as you want, no judgements whatsoever.
If you don’t have a building, where do we hold the ceremony?
Anywhere you would like. Some families rent a venue, some hold the ceremony in their back yard.
We are not religious. Will you work with us? What is a service like?
We can provide a ceremony in any style you would like using Conservative, Reform or Secular Humanistic readings and interpretations.
How does the free payment plan work?
We work with you to find a payment cycle that works best for you. Some families need to pay in fewer, larger amounts. Others need to spread out payment. We’ll help you however we can.
It is unlikely that my child will learn Hebrew or have time for any
significant tutoring, but we still want a b’nai mitzvah. How do we do
Our abbreviated service is perfect for a family that wants the experience of the traditional bar or bat mitzvah, but understanding that families are busy and cannot commit to the kind of tutoring it would take for a full ceremony.
My child is not motivated. What should I do?
Consider doing a customized coming-of-age ceremony instead of a traditional b’nai mitzvah. Your child meets with Rabbi Patrick ten times, focusing on helping them decide what being Jewish means to them. The ceremony will reflect who your family is, your values and interests.
We are an interfaith family. Is that OK?
Yes! We’re honored to work with you.
Do you work with LGBTQ families or gender non-conforming children?
Gladly! We are the only Jewish presence at the annual VA Pride.
Where are we supposed to have our ceremony?
You are welcome to have your ceremony anywhere that you would like. We serve bar mitzvah/bat mitzvah families in Richmond, Chesterfield, Charlottesville, Petersburg, Powhatan, Charlottesville, Virginia Beach, Chesterfield, Norfolk and the DC metro area.
I have another question. Who should I talk to?
Reach out directly to our rabbi, Rabbi Patrick Beaulier at email@example.com